Does your partner or spouse

·Hit , slap, shove, choke or kick you or your children

·Threaten to hurt you or your children

·Keep you locked up or prevent you from going anywhere

·Force you to have sex or do sexual things against your will

·Prevent you from working or studying

·Prevent you from speaking to friends or family

·Confuse you with promises and lies

·Humiliate you in front of others

·Accuse you of having affairs when you are not

·Destroy your personal property

·Control all the money and makes you account for everything you spend

·Do things to shame and ridicule you like telling you that you are stupid, fat or ugly;

·Tell you that cannot do anything right or telling you that no one would ever want you?

A good relationship is one

·Which starts with friendship

·Where both people are individually strong and do not depend on each other.

·Which is a partnership based on friendship and respect

·Where problems can be resolved in a peaceful and calm manner

·Where each partner has interests outside of the relationship and is not isolated

·Where there is trust and concern for each other

·Where it feels good to be with each other

·Which has no abuse or violence or threats or degradation.